| I. Procession
– Fur Elise
II. Opening Words
Celebrant: Welcome
Family and Friends! Happy Halloween!
We have come together on this festive holiday to bless the
marriage of Jane P. Doe and Joe C. Brown. We your family
and friends are here to celebrate your love.
Halloween is Jane’s favorite holiday. In the ancient
Celtic traditions, Halloween is a time between times. All
laws of time and space are suspended for the evening. As
the official end of summer and the turning closer towards
winter, it marks an opening between our world and the spirit
world. The veil between the two worlds is at its thinnest
on Halloween night. Legend has it that spirits intermingle
with the living. The tradition of wearing costumes is to
confuse those spirits who may want to do us harm. Yet for
us, this night is more about merriment, trickery and yummy
goodies!
We have all had moments of peak experiences where time and
space are suspended and these unusual moments takes on a
timeless quality. Halloween will forever be linked to two
such moments for Jane and Joe. They began this process with
their engagement on Halloween. And tonight, they will deepen
their bond making a sacred union whereby their hearts, their
bodies and their souls shall be united as one in marriage
for the rest of their days. And it is our honor and privilege
to stand witness. For this blessed act, is magnificent and
so tender to behold.
Jane and Joe are so grateful to all of you who have come
to share this memorable occasion with them. You honor them
with your presence and your support for them. At the end
of the ceremony, there will be an opportunity for all of
us to honor them.
III. Presenting of the Bride and Groom
Celebrant: Who presents
the bride in marriage?
Bride’s Family: She gives herself and we
share in her giving joyfully.
Celebrant: Who presents
the groom in marriage?
Groom’s Family: He gives himself and we share
in his giving joyfully.
IV. 1st Reading – Roy Croft
V. Celebrant’s Address
Celebrant: The magic
and awe of this season is upon us tonight. Every Fall, it
seems as if this season has been the most spectacular one
that we could possibly remember. The leaves have made a
fiery and bold display of the world around us. The chilly
and crisp air fills our lungs with hints of the season to
come. We feel invigorated, yet calm and ready for the winter
months ahead.
The beauty, awe and timelessness of this moment transcends
even the most spectacular displays of fall foliage. For
here, we have two souls standing before us to join their
lives together.
Jane and Joe, you have that spirit in your relationship
and in your lives. Spectacular, magical, calm, bold, fiery
and invigorating are all aspects of your lives as individuals
and together. These aspects will prepare you for the seasons
of marriage to come. In the midst of winter, please remember
the silence and calmness of the season and take time to
rest. In the spring, please remember the magic of rebirth
and regeneration and begin something anew. In the summer,
please remember the fiery and awesome moments and spice
up your lives together. And in the fall, please remember
the spectacular and invigorating aspects of who you are
together and who you wish to become.
You have a perfect blend of all that is needed in a relationship.
You support each other, listen to each other and respect
each other. You both understand that the other is a gift,
a precious gift. Yet, this gift is not yours alone but one
that is shared with the entire world. In your love for each
other, may you find yourselves becoming more than what either
of you could be alone. In your support, the other becomes
stronger, more complete. In your listening, the other is
so fully heard that there is peacefulness. And in your respect,
the other is so fully appreciated that they shine so brightly.
Your love for each other becomes a gift unto this world
and all who come into contact with you.
Jane and Joe, you are the result of the love of thousands.
Today would not be possible without the love of your parents,
grandparents, siblings, extended family and friends. Today
we witness the circle of life. All that was extended to
both of you; stability, love, support and nourishment, will
now be extended beyond yourselves and into the world.
In the spirit of Halloween, we wish to take a moment now
to honor all ancestors and those who could not be with us
here today. There are those who could not make the trip.
Some have left us long ago. There are those ancestors that
are unknown to us, who have been the forbearers of the two
now before us. Please bring to mind any and all of your
loved ones. With our thoughts, we can add them to our gathering.
Parents, you have given your children immortal gifts. The
light of this marriage would not be possible without you.
Emerson defined success in this way: It is to leave the
world a better place, by virtue of a redeemed social condition,
a patch of a garden or by way of a child. We congratulate
you on your success! You have brought forth life. You have
brought forth love. It is most important on your children’s
wedding day that we thank you and bless you.
Jane and Joe, put your relationship on the altar of your
lives and dedicate yourselves to it. Remember, as long as
you have this, you have everything. Beauty and youth fade
away, money comes and goes, but your love is irreplaceable.
Love is eternal.
VI. Declaration of Intent
Celebrant: Since it
is your intention to join in marriage, kindly join your
hands and with your hands your hearts.
VII. Wine and Chocolate Ritual Celebrant:
Long ago, wine and chocolate were revered as gifts from the
Gods. For the ancient ones, wine represented the blood and
life of the earth and all the abundance of her harvest. For
the ancient Mayans, the rare and desirable chocolate was revered
as ambrosia that would heal you body and soul.
Jane and Joe, as you share these gifts together, you drink
from a single cup and eat from the same table signifying
that you are becoming one blood, one family and one kin.
We invite all to witness here this act of sharing and remembering
life’s gifts of growth from sorrow and sweetness.
(Celebrant holds cup of wine)
The years of life will have some hardships and disappointments,
of which this bitter wine is a symbol, remember to forgive
the frailties of one another. Bear together life’s
adversities and be confident that the good will always return.
(Couple sips wine together)
(Celebrant holds chocolate in a dish/plate)
The years of life have indeed, much happiness, joy, hope,
healing and goodness, of which this sweet chocolate is a
token. We ask that you eat of it together, and as you do,
earnestly seek the power and wisdom to use all the pleasure
and prosperity that may come to you, with gratitude, modesty,
and sympathy for all those less fortunate than yourselves.
(Couple eats chocolate together)
As you have shared the wine and chocolate, so may you share
your lives. May you find life’s joys heightened, its
bitterness sweetened, and all of life enriched by a constant
love.
(have a linen on hand for faces and fingers!)
VIII. Vows Couple: I promise
to love you, to remain honest and faithful to you, to be available
for you when you are in pain or grief, and when you are filled
with happiness.
I promise to challenge you always, to support and nurture
you and to be receptive to the gift of your love.
I love you with all my heart, and I will love you for the
rest of my life. IX. Rings - Blessing &
Exchange
Celebrant: Rings are
the ancient symbol, blessed and simple. Round like the sun,
like the eye, like the arms that embrace. Circles, for love
that is given comes back round again and again. Therefore,
may these symbols remind you that your love, like the sun,
illumines; that your love, like the eye, must see clearly,
that your love, like arms that embrace, is a grace upon
this world.
Couple: As this ring encircles your finger from
this day forward, year in and year out, so will my love
forever encircle you. Wear this ring as a symbol of this
love.
X. 2nd Reading – On Marriage
– Kahlil Gibran
XI. Ritual – Jumping the broom
Celebrant: In the ancient
world, the most magical times were the between and betwixt
times. These are the times that were neither day nor night,
inside nor outside but a time in between times. These are
the threshold moments and they carry with them great significance.
We end this ceremony with a Celtic and African tradition
of jumping the broom. Traditionally in the Celtic household,
the broom was placed on the threshold of the house and the
couple who wished to be joined, jumped over the broom into
their new life together. In the African tradition, the families
would gather in the evening and the eldest and honored woman
of the community would step forward and perform the ritual
for the couple who were choosing to be joined.
This event today marks the beginning of making a home together.
It symbolizes sweeping away the old and welcoming the new.
It is also a call of support from the entire community.
We invite Aunt Sandy and Aunt Kaye to step forward.
Please clear away any negativity with a sweep of the broom
and create a threshold for the couple to cross over into
their new life together.
Aunt Sandy: I sweep away all negativity and traces
of your past life apart. May you begin your new life together
with a clean sweep. (Aunt sweeps.)
Aunt Kaye: As you jump, you leave your old lives
behind and begin a new life together. May your all your
journeys in your new life together be smooth and easy. (Aunt
lays the broom.)
Both Aunts: In honor of this ritual we issue a
hope and a prayer of sweeping away barriers between people
of different religions or cultures. May these vows and this
marriage be blessed.
(Couple walks over the broom. )
XII. Closing Blessing – Pronouncement
Celebrant: Do all those
assembled affirm this marriage and give it your blessing?
Please answer, “We do!”
Congregation: We do!
Celebrant: I ask that
everyone together please repeat after me, “We, your
family and friends, now pronounce you married.”
Congregation: We, your family and friends, now
pronounce you married.
XIII. Kiss
Celebrant: It is said
that when the one man loves the one woman and the one woman
loves the one man. The very angels desert heaven and sit
in that house and sing for joy.
You may kiss.
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